Just saw Showtime’s Polyamory: Married and Dating, and yes, it is garbage. Annoying, pretentious people practicing polyamory in the most dramatic of fashions. I hardly think they understand what the term polyamory means. One of the women says repeatedly that she doesn’t want to share one of her lovers. I want to slap her (I want to slap them all, really) and say “she doesn’t belong to you!” Part of polyamory is recognizing that you do not own another human being.
I watched two episodes, and it seems that every episode contains about 45 seconds of the real nitty-gritty issues of polyamory. This, of course, is followed by awkward and very un-sexy sex. The problem isn’t that there is too much sex, it is that the sex is so unnappealing and random.
I liked the little smidgeons of seriousness. The blonde girlfriend in the triad with the married couple notes that she always feels less important because she’s the girlfriend and they are husband and wife . My fiance feels this acutely. That’s something I’d love the show to delve into. Of course, they didn’t. It’s a reality TV show. What more can you expect?
We went to poly day UK 2012 last weekend. What an utter disappointment. The cost was £15 per person and it was clear, almost right away, that we had drastically overpaid for what we got. It was the big failures that were unforgivable, but because the big things were so bad, the little things were absolutely infuriating. For instance, the organizers gave us children’s markers, with no points, to sign our name tags and write on flip chart paper. Did you get that? Markers that purposefully had no points. If everything else had gone right I would have forgotten about it. But nothing did go right. We arrived and the attendants taking the money were less than cordial. My husband gave them £30 and the attendant, quite rudely, asked him “What are you paying for?” (Small thing) Continue reading →
A few days ago I was in the library, pawing around the Social/Social Science section, looking for books about prostitutes (hey, we’ve all got our vices) when I came across Living Two Lives: Married to a Man & In Love with a Woman by Joanne Fleisher. It was the 6th book I picked up that day – I already had 2 checked out, bringing me to my 8 item limit. It was, of course, the first book I opened when I got home. I finished it in two days.
This past Friday we had the opportunity to attend a Poly Speed Dating Event in London. Now, if you are like me, you probably went “poly speed dating?… How does that work?!” To be quite honest, curiosity was a major factor in our attendance. That, and general misunderstanding that seems to occur when we are all too polite to each other. As in, “oh, I thought you were the one who wanted to go…” At least we are all trying to keep each other happy, I guess. Continue reading →