Sexual Harassment – is it my fault if I don’t stop it?

For the past year I’ve been dealing with sexual harassment. I work alone with my boss, supporting him with his work.  There are no other employees. In general, the harassment has been a lot of unwanted flirtation, unwanted physical comments/flattery and repeated requests to meet outside of work. Very rarely, it has been unwanted physical contact.  The harassment has been mild, the kind I would tolerate from a coworker, but that is uncomfortable coming from someone who outranks you.

 

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The Choice to Live with Multiple Partners – Not without a ring, my friend

My girlfriend and I live very far apart.  It takes about an hour and a half by train and a little longer by bike, so it is difficult for us to see each other as often as we’d like. My husband and I are considering moving for several reasons – including the unfortunately high cost of our tiny flat in our overpriced, boring neighborhood. I’d like to take the opportunity to move us closer to my girlfriend.  Of course, this has brought up many interesting discussions on potential living situations.  How close should we live to my girlfriend?  A nearer neighborhood?  The same neighborhood?  A flat next door?  The same flat? What option should we choose now?  And what options should we consider in the future?

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The Inequality of Open Marriage: A Painful Talk with my Friends

I’ve had a lot on my mind lately, but I’ve had difficulty finding time to write about it because I’ve been shuttling back and forth between my house and my girlfriend’s house.  It’s lovely that we live all the way across London from each other.  Advice for anyone starting a polyamorous open marriage: if you are going to see another partner frequently, keep the commute time down!  It takes me an hour and 45 minutes to get to her place.  It is completely worth it, but it is killing me!

 

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I don’t know anything about polyamory, it turns out.

So I said I made this website to give advice from another perspective.  How silly of me.  How completely silly.  I have no advice to give, I’m completely lost myself.

 

Having an open marriage was relatively easy.  There were some fights and little jealousies and the like, but it was rather simple. There was a lot of sex and a little friendship and things just went on like normal (mostly).

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The Best Poly Advice I’ve Heard (And That I Know I Won’t Follow)

Lately I’ve been dating a woman in my open marriage. So far I’m very excited (too excited) about the situation.  I’m also completely and totally wracked with nerves. In general I’m fairly cool about the people I date so I wasn’t expecting any of the anxiety I’ve been experiencing for the past few weeks. I know I can attribute a fair amount of my panic to the fact that I’ve never dated a woman before, but there is a far larger cause to my stress over the situation: I like her very much and she isn’t polyamorous.

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What do you do when your wife wants an open relationship?

Contrary to common opinion, it isn’t always the husband that wants an open marriage. The realization that your partner wants to change from a monogamous relationship to an open one can be difficult no matter what sex they are.  Whether the wife or husband wants to open the relationship makes little difference. So what do you do when your partner wants an open relationship? What do you do when you don’t?

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Coming Out of the Closet to My Family

Some of my friends know that I’m in an open relationship, but I never broached the subject with my family until today when I came out as open and bisexual.  I never really imagined I was going to tell them about this aspect in my life at all – then I started dating this girl and I had to share it with my mom.

 

First, let me note that I like this girl way too much for my own good and we haven’t known each other long enough at all for me to mention her to my mom, but I did anyway. I don’t want to say any more about her without her permission, so I’ll stop there.

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There is a Woman Emailing My Husband!

 

Today I find myself in a rather odd situation. There is a woman flirting with my husband online, through Facebook and through email.  She recently initiated contact and she’s even sending him dirty pictures of herself.  Of course, since I’m in an open relationship that isn’t a problem.  The problem is she doesn’t know we are in an open relationship.

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Rules for Your Open Relationship – and 1 Rule to Avoid!

Every open relationship needs a set of guidelines.  These could be rules that you’ll both abide by for the remainder of your relationship or they could be flexible guiding principles.  Relationship guidelines are just another strategy we can use to keep jealousy at bay and keep our partners needs in mind.

 

What principles should an open relationship have? 

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