My girlfriend and I live very far apart. It takes about an hour and a half by train and a little longer by bike, so it is difficult for us to see each other as often as we’d like. My husband and I are considering moving for several reasons – including the unfortunately high cost of our tiny flat in our overpriced, boring neighborhood. I’d like to take the opportunity to move us closer to my girlfriend. Of course, this has brought up many interesting discussions on potential living situations. How close should we live to my girlfriend? A nearer neighborhood? The same neighborhood? A flat next door? The same flat? What option should we choose now? And what options should we consider in the future?
I’ve had a lot on my mind lately, but I’ve had difficulty finding time to write about it because I’ve been shuttling back and forth between my house and my girlfriend’s house. It’s lovely that we live all the way across London from each other. Advice for anyone starting a polyamorous open marriage: if you are going to see another partner frequently, keep the commute time down! It takes me an hour and 45 minutes to get to her place. It is completely worth it, but it is killing me!
So I said I made this website to give advice from another perspective. How silly of me. How completely silly. I have no advice to give, I’m completely lost myself.
Having an open marriage was relatively easy. There were some fights and little jealousies and the like, but it was rather simple. There was a lot of sex and a little friendship and things just went on like normal (mostly).
Lately I’ve been dating a woman in my open marriage. So far I’m very excited (too excited) about the situation. I’m also completely and totally wracked with nerves. In general I’m fairly cool about the people I date so I wasn’t expecting any of the anxiety I’ve been experiencing for the past few weeks. I know I can attribute a fair amount of my panic to the fact that I’ve never dated a woman before, but there is a far larger cause to my stress over the situation: I like her very much and she isn’t polyamorous.