Polyamory: Married and Dating – I seen it!


Just saw Showtime’s Polyamory: Married and Dating, and yes, it is garbage. Annoying, pretentious people practicing polyamory in the most dramatic of fashions. I hardly think they understand what the term polyamory means. One of the women says repeatedly that she doesn’t want to share one of her lovers. I want to slap her (I want to slap them all, really) and say “she doesn’t belong to you!” Part of polyamory is recognizing that you do not own another human being.


I watched two episodes, and it seems that every episode contains about 45 seconds of the real nitty-gritty issues of polyamory. This, of course, is followed by awkward and very un-sexy sex. The problem isn’t that there is too much sex, it is that the sex is so unnappealing and random.


I liked the little smidgeons of seriousness. The blonde girlfriend in the triad with the married couple notes that she always feels less important because she’s the girlfriend and they are husband and wife . My fiance feels this acutely. That’s something I’d love the show to delve into. Of course, they didn’t. It’s a reality TV show. What more can you expect?

Polyamory: Married and Dating… but I gots no TV.

I’m dying to see Polyamory: Married and Dating.  I know it’ll be trash, but I want to see it! I keep seeing people criticizing the sex in the show.  I know a lot of the poly community wants to make us seem like we all have one on one sex (one on one kinky sex, apparently, but still 1:1).  I get it, we want to seem more normal, it isn’t all about sex and we don’t want to emphasize the sexy parts.  But, uh, I do have sex with more than one person and I sometimes have sex with more than one person at a time. It’s one o’ the perks of my non-monogamy.

I also hear people are criticizing it for being too white.  No joke, I haven’t seen loads of other minority polyamorists running around at the meet-ups I’ve attended.  I definitely get to feeling like the token black at these places. Maybe it’ll look less white when it is less white.